Listening & Learning Thread

[Breneir Tzaracomprada]

With thanks again to my husband @Crement Itravilatx and to a wise Talossan @Tric'hard Lenxheir for inspiring me to try and make amends for past wrongs and to endeavor to be better. I am thankful to Crement especially for helping me to understand why I was reacting automatically in self-defense to what I perceived as attacks and how it might be related to past bullying. He encouraged me to put the focus on understanding what was said was harmful and that there is a human being involved. A second apology, a course, and leaving the Ziu followed.

Regardless of what it is said now about me by people I do not trust the focus must be on learning to ensure that my words match my intent. And that they reflect the true nature of my character.

Over the next few weeks I will be asking people to help me understand. Feel free to respond here or to correspond privately or not at all. Of course it is a choice but I hope to have your help because I think the discussion's benefits go beyond me.

[Breneir Tzaracomprada]

First, I wanted to ask @Barclamïu da Miéletz @owenedwards @Carlüs Éovart Vilaçafat and @Antaglha Xhenerös Somelieir

Barclamiu, I was genuinely hurt and confused when you requested to have your videos taken down from Fora Talossa. Ever since there seems to be hostility. I recall a conversation about furries in an immigration thread. At the time, as a member of a university Queer Collective group I had met my first furry so it was an honest curiosity to me. You later made fun of my appearance which was again quite hurtful. I continue to be confused as to what I did to you to deserve this. Was it a consequence of what I said to Luc or the heat of politics? I'd like to better understand because I do not want to be a source or a recipient of harmful words. Please feel free to talk privately if you wish or not to respond at all I will try to understand either way.

Owen, I assume it is due to the what I said to Luc as it is around that time that communication declined. I recall you were to be a judge for the, I think, 4th round of the El Pretz Poetry Prize, but communication stopped and I finished the proceedings. You've been wise counsel in the past so how might I prevent a reoccurence?

Carlus, I think it might be the same situation with you, or you are just taking a break from Talossa. If it is the latter then it would be great to reconnect. If it is the former I would welcome a chance to learn from your perspective.

Antaglha, I asked you in the first group because we both appear to have mental health challenges. From your perspective, and some of your comments, I know there was much of what I have said which caused you anger and outrage. The chance of a response might be low but I ask for your counsel nonetheless because I believe I could learn from it.

[Barclamïu da Miéletz]

Barclamiu, I was genuinely hurt and confused when you requested to have your videos taken down from Fora Talossa. Ever since there seems to be hostility.

I don't really understand why you're so hurt by this, I just want to perhaps protect my privacy because my face has been weaponised and used against me before? I think that should be common sense, especially when I'm still a minor. Also I do not wish to be associated with someone who has sexually harassed another citizen while also victimising themselves to the point that the actual victim has given up on wanting an apology from you.

I recall a conversation about furries in an immigration thread. At the time, as a member of a university Queer Collective group I had met my first furry so it was an honest curiosity to me.

That is a rather mediocre attempt to relate with me.

You later made fun of my appearance which was again quite hurtful. I continue to be confused as to what I did to you to deserve this. Was it a consequence of what I said to Luc or the heat of politics?

I should have articulated that better and I am aware it was hurtful. This and exclusively this is on me.

[Breneir Tzaracomprada]

I don't really understand why you're so hurt by this, I just want to perhaps protect my privacy because my face has been weaponised and used against me before?

The hurt was caused by confusion as to why everthing was pulled as I honestly didn't know. I now know it was because you had privacy concerns and did not want to be associated with me. Thank you for explaining.

That is a rather mediocre attempt to relate with me.

I think you might be saying it was. But it is not an attempt to relate with you. I do not have a desire to relate to you only to understand what happened. I thought that conversation might have been one of the causes of you pulling your videos so wanted to check.

I should have articulated that better and I am aware it was hurtful. This and exclusively this is on me.

Thank you for acknowledging that, Barclamiu and for providing some helpful answers.